Intrusive thoughts after betrayal
Having intrusive thoughts when you are going through betrayal trauma is not unusual, nor is it a sign of abnormality. You might be feeling fine one moment, and in the very next instant, you...
Have you tried taking 15-minute breaks?
In the busyness of everyday life, it’s challenging to find just a few minutes for yourself where you can take a breather and put your feet up, so to speak. You have a myriad...
How to manage emotions when feeling overwhelmed?
During the course of your daily life, you engage in several interactions with different people at different levels. Not all exchanges go the way you want them to go. You manage some situations better...
Do you struggle with disagreement in your relationship?
I regularly come across couples deeply concerned about their disagreement on different issues. Both partners have been making attempts to resolve their ‘disputes’ and getting increasingly distressed as it’s not going anywhere. The person...
The conflict in me
My heart says to stay here It feels so secure My mind says to find another It will feel special too. I want to be in the now And I want to be away I want to find the place That...
When managing priorities is an everyday challenge
Once in a session, my client was exploring strategies to prioritise daily tasks, so nothing is left unfinished, and everything goes smoothly. I could see them getting increasingly exhausted. “I don’t think I can...
How can engaged listening be an effective solution?
We've heard of the techniques for becoming a better listener. Let people speak first, pause and then respond, and only share your story when appropriate. Resist offering unsolicited advice. Be aware of the underlying...
Learning to ‘let go’
How often have you been asked to ‘let go’ and ‘move on’ when you find a situation difficult to accept? Almost always? You know how you want to behave, but your feelings might not...
How do you self-care?
We hear people talking about self-care and how to do it. There is no dearth of available tips and tools when it comes to self-care. ‘Are you sleeping well?’, ‘Have you visited your GP?’,...
The mindful way of living
Mindfulness is used in therapy as a skill to discover one’s state of mental awareness. I use this technique to help clients centre in the present moment and recognise their emotions, thoughts and physical...
How to find routine amidst chaos?
We all have grown up hearing, ‘change is the only constant’. And we are okaywith changes in our lives and take it in our strides with aplomb. But this yearhas tested us with its...