How often have you been asked to ‘let go’ and ‘move on’ when you find a situation difficult to accept? Almost always? You know how you want to behave, but your feelings might not be in sync with your thoughts.
The situation may seem out of control. The sensations that you feel in your body and the emotions that engulf you, can be very daunting. The sense of powerlessness can be overpowering. But are you really incapable of making changes to your circumstances? Does it feel like you don’t have the resources to make these feelings go away?
Letting go doesn’t mean you become indifferent. You don’t have to forgive and forget until you are ready. The pain you feel is only yours, and no one else can own it. Your mind communicates to you that a situation is not comfortable through signaling pain, whether emotional, mental or physical. Your senses tell you when you go through a change. It becomes easier to look at a difficult experience without feeling overwhelmed, but there are no right way and time to do it. Listening to your sensations and soothing them can help relieve your distress.
Try these simple techniques to begin the process of letting go and initiate healing.
When you are triggered:
Rub your arms or your cheeks and try deep breathing. Continue to do these till you feel at least a little calmer.
Have a few sips of tepid water, swirl it around your mouth, feel its warmth.
Notice your surroundings, focus on the things you can see.
If you can find a comfortable spot, sit down and feel the surface pressing against your body. Move your hand on it and press your feet on the ground. Try deep breathing again.
Stay with yourself in this moment of discomfort. It is asking you to pause.
When you feel a little in control:
You can go for a walk outside, taking in your surroundings. Let your mind wander, if unwanted thoughts seep in, observe them, bring yourself back to where you are and soak in the sights. Repeat.
Once you are back home, note down your feelings. You can use a notepad or simply use your phone. Don’t analyse now, just write down. You can also use a voice recorder to verbalise your thoughts.
After a couple of days or a week, whenever you feel ready, read your journal. What are these feelings telling you?
Create a list and note down everything that you want to happen. You have the power to make them your reality.
Do you want to make changes in your life and unburden yourself? If you want to explore these options, you can write to me at: [email protected]
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